There
are many views on some topics that cross both Conservative and liberal
viewpoints. Topics that many seem to be afraid to deal with any longer. One of
those topics is abortion. Radio talk show hosts seem to be afraid of this topic
and refuse to even discuss it. Many have taken the position of Neil Boortz when
he had his radio program.
Neil
Boortz would stop anyone that brought up abortion or even mentioned it in
passing when discussing another topic and seeming to tie them together. It’s as
though you’re not permitted to have an opinion on abortion, nor to even suggest
you have an opinion about it. I believe it’s cowardice to avoid a topic just because
so many people are adamant in whatever their position is on the topic.
In
many campaigns for office abortion is used as a way to put down the other
candidate. The liberal may say “my opponent wants to regulate your wombs” or
the Conservative may say “my opponent wants you to allow death to a baby after
the baby has viable organs but prior to leaving the womb”. Nobody delves into
the actual thoughts on abortion but rather tells you what the other person
thinks or will do even though they really don’t know what the other would or
wouldn’t do.
I
have run into this when talking with people. Friends, family members and
others. Well, if you’re scared of hearing about abortion, you might want to
stop reading right now because I’m going to talk about it here.
First,
there is the identification of whatever belief you have. I call myself
Pro-Life. If someone believes that abortion should be an option, I’d call them
Pro-Choice. If you tell me that I’m anti-abortion, then I’ll play your game and
call you anti-life. That only makes it a name calling match and not a real
discussion.
We
know how pregnancy starts. It begins with an act of sex or it can begin with
artificial insemination. I can’t imagine anyone choosing to be artificially
inseminated to get pregnant, then choosing to abort. I guess there could be
some reasons, but it would seem very odd to go to that expense and trouble only
to give up.
The
act of sex is a choice. The choice can be made by two people or by one person.
If it’s made by two people, and a pregnancy occurs, something that they engaged
in created a new life. If done within a marriage or within a permanent
relationship, it is MY BELIEF, that the couple stand up and take responsibility
for their actions. If the pregnancy is an accident, I would think it’s a happy
accident. If it comes at an inconvenient time for one or both of the parents, they
should adjust to what they created and take responsibility for their actions
and the results of those actions. If they choose to abort because of
inconvenience, they can do that, but it is MY BELIEF that they are not taking
responsibility for their actions and because of that, a life, that is too young
to make decisions, let alone voice decisions, gets no say in THEIR life. I have
a difficult time reconciling how someone can choose to end a life because of
their own inconvenience or disruption to their lives. Do they not consider the disruption
to the life they have created? If the baby could voice its’ own opinion what
would it be? Who stands up for the baby?
Regarding
teenagers engaging in sex, they know it’s possible that a pregnancy could occur.
It may not be high on their thoughts as they are beginning to have their fun,
but there may be consequences to that fun they are about to have. Ending a life
is not taking responsibility for their actions. They can choose to raise the
child or they can choose to put the baby up for adoption. The life for the baby
may not be the ideal life, but it’s still a life with possibilities. If
abortion is chosen that baby’s chance at life is gone with them being able to
choose.
In
the case of rape, again, I realize a life was created by a violent act. The
choice has been taken away from the mother to be, but for her to take away the
chance for that baby to have a shot at life removes the possibility of
something good coming from something bad.
Many
also argue that it’s the mothers choice. After all, it’s her body. I disagree
and I may be in the minority on this but it’s MY BELIEF that once she shared
her body, the results of their act together makes both of them responsible for
the decision. If either of them chooses for the baby to be born, that baby
should be born. If the mother wants the baby but the father doesn’t, the
mothers argument prevails because she’s choosing life for another as well as
her own. If the father chooses for the baby to be born, but the mother doesn’t
want it, then again, the baby is given the chance at life. The exception to
this is in the case of rape. A rapist gets no say in any decision regarding the
baby. He gave her no choice in the act, he gets no choice in the decision.
However, he will contribute financially to the raising of that child and will
never be given access to the child.
Notice
that in each case, I said “MY BELIEF”. It’s not me dictating, it’s MY BELIEF.
If you think differently, that’s fine for you as MY BELIEF is fine for me.
Having
said all of that, I admit that I have an inconsistency in my belief both
morally and intellectually. If my wife was to become pregnant, at my age, I’d
be shocked but still follow through on it. However, if the life of my wife were
in danger of being lost due to the pregnancy, in that case, I would choose the
life of my wife over that of the baby. In effect, I’d be choosing abortion.
Thankfully, I never had to make that choice.
If
you think I’m wrong in my choices on all of the options above, that’s your prerogative.
But if each of those were my choices, those are what I would choose regardless
of the hardship a new baby might present. I will not choose abortion out of my
convenience. I will not take the choice away from the baby that cannot speak
for itself with the one exception I gave. Those are MY choices.
If
you choose differently, and ask my opinion, that’s what you’ll get. However, if
you don’t ask my opinion (and I can’t imagine anyone asking me my opinion other
than my own kids asking if they ever run into that situation) then you are
entitled to your opinion without scorn from me. For those of you that don’t
know, two of my children are daughters and right now they are aged 18 and 17. I
only hope they never have to make that decision and I believe that with how I
raised them, I have a pretty good shot at not having my children run into that
decision.
My
choices, my beliefs, are taken away from me when the government chooses to fund
those that want an abortion. My tax money goes to the government just as yours
does. If you’re going to get pregnant and for whatever reason you decide to
abort the pregnancy, it is wrong for even one fraction of a penny of my money
to pay for your decision to do something that I don’t believe in. They were
YOUR actions, pay for YOUR OWN decision but don’t force me to pay anything
towards a decision that I would not make.
Notice
that I said it is wrong. I didn’t say it might be wrong, I said it IS wrong.
If
you believe in abortion or even choice, that’s your belief. You would only be
wrong in your belief if you try to force
your belief on me or begin putting me down for my belief. But my belief is not
forced on you. Abortion is legal. So if you choose abortion, it’s between you
and your conscious or your God.
If
you want to discuss abortion, I’m all for it, but don’t put me down for my
beliefs, and I won’t put you down for your beliefs. I will listen to your side
of the topic and in return you should listen to my side and neither of us
should be disparaging the other person for their beliefs.
To
avoid a discussion on abortion on the talk shows, such as Neil Boortz and
others, only tells me that the moderator cannot moderate. He/She must be
incapable of asking tough questions on each side to challenge that other
persons belief and understand that people believe different things for
different reasons, and those reasons are very likely very good reasons from the
mindset of each side.
If
we’re going to be afraid to talk about a topic, people will never be able to
choose without giving thought to other possibilities. They won't realize or even understand they have options. All because people are afraid to talk, reasonably and without rancor and understanding about tough topics. When people say, 'it's my way and there is no other way' it's not Conservative and it's not freedom.
This only creates flawed
legislation and I’m really tired of hearing politicians say “it’s not the best
solution, but it’s a start.” We are the greatest country in the world. We ought
to be able to come up with the best solutions rather than kicking these topics
down the road for whatever is popular at the time. The only way to do that is to discuss and debate them without despising the other side. Try some understanding. If you listen, you might learn. If you talk constantly, you are only dictating and not hearing.
You’re
welcome to comment.
Brett